Felt Needs

If You’re Not Feeling Loved

by Fr. Mike Schmitz
Photo by Wyron A on Unsplash


If you’re not feeling loved by someone you love, take courage in the story of Leah in Genesis. 

Jacob, Leah’s husband, did not love her. In fact, what’s even worse, he loved her sister, Rachel, instead. Leah named her first three sons out of her hope and desire for her husband to love her, thinking if she bore him sons he would love him. She named her first “Reuben” which means, “Look, a son,” saying, “Now my husband will love me.” She named her second son “Simeon” which means “listening” because she felt the Lord heard her prayer for Jacob to love her. She named her third son “Levi” which means “joined together” because she believed this time her husband will finally be joined to her. 

By the time she had her fourth son, she named him Judah, which means “may God be praised.” She finally stopped trying to make Jacob love her, and instead she let go and let God take over. It’s no coincidence that Jesus would be born from the line of Judah. 

Some people love people the way they know how to love, and the beloved just doesn’t notice. A father may love her daughter through acts of service rather than words of affirmation or quality time. 

Others may simply not love you, but that does not mean you’re unlovable. 

You’re chosen by God for a reason only you can know. Do not wait for someone else to give you the love that God the Father has already given you.

 

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